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Thursday, December 31, 2020

Victorian-American New Year's Resolutions by Kristin Holt

 

Kristin holt | Victorian-American New Year's Resolutions

by Kristin Holt,
USA Today
Bestselling Author of Sweet American Historical Romance

 

Happy New Year!

Some matters might be wildly different now than back in the nineteenth century, yet some things haven’t changed. Like human nature. And the resolve to do better.

This clipping, from The Times of Philadelphia (December 31, 1875) encapsulates one view of the Victorian-American values surrounding New Year's and resolutions:

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American New Year's Resolutions. From The Times of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania on December 31, 1875.

Quit Smoking – then and now

Given all we know about tobacco use in the nineteenth century, it’s no surprise people have both loved and hated the “vice.” This 'tale' rings true in 2021 as much as it did historically.

Note this quip from 1869:

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American New Year's Resolutions. Tobacconist bemoans New Year's Resolutions; The Wheeling Daily Register of Wheeling, West Virginia on January 7, 1869.

New Year’s Resolutions, Nineteenth-Century Style

Through the lens of vintage newspaper articles, Victorian attitudes about relationships, indebtedness, and substance use are apparent. Many New Year’s editorial posts and syndicated articles make the writers’ opinions clear—be sober, be wise, be prudent. And whatever you do, don’t drag the old year’s problems into the new.

Show Me the Money

No matter how many fictional tales I’ve read (set in the nineteenth-century American West), I’ve yet to see the financial “norm” appear. That “norm” is the abundant use of credit. Yes, the roughly-dressed newcomer to town might have to plunk down a coin on the bar before he’s allowed to run a tab, but what about the grocer? Or the furniture maker?

Did you know buying on credit was standard business?

People ran up tabs and paid them biannually. As a holdover from English customs and law, nineteenth century U.S. residents bought all year long on a running tab. These bills from the milliner, cobbler, grocer (etc., etc.) came due on July 1 and January 1. Not only did merchants want the money owed to them, but those merchants in turn needed to pay their suppliers.

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American New Year's Resolutions. All accounts must be paid to the newspaper so the paper can pay its debts too. The Johnson City World of Johnson City, Kansas on December 29, 1887.

Frequent newspaper editorials reminded readers to pay their newspaper subscriptions (in arrears), pay their parsons, pay their debts to all they owe. This tradition lasted throughout the nineteenth century.

Cultural Pressure

In poetry, no less.

I discovered numerous newspaper inclusions of New Year's poetry that bemoaned debts coming due. Here is an example:

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American New Year's Resolutions. "Those New Year's Bills", poetry published from/by "Hawkeye" in The Abilene Weekly Chronicle of Abilene, Kansas on January 2, 1880.

And one more, for kicks:

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American New Year's Resoltuions. Reprinted from Mayfair in The Lancaster Examiner of Lancaster, PA on January 7, 1880: "Those New Year Bills" poetry--illustrating the fear and personal recriminations (and shock!) when all those bills come due.

Viewed through the lens of twenty-first century political correctness, much of the Victorian Era is cringe-worthy. Statements made about those “other” than native English-speaking protestant whites, at the time, were not only acceptable but prolific. Note this one that both praises and demeans (or does “heathen” simply mean not-Christian?) the Chinese:

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American New Year's Resolutions. "We call for a Chinese New Year on Jan. 1st, 1876. That is, let all imitate the heathen nation and pay every debt. No Chinaman is happy unless he can commence the new year without debt." The Daily Review of Wilmington, North Carolina on December 13, 1875.

Societal pressures insisted a man couldn’t welcome the New Year while encumbered with unresolved issues. Social mores, strong as they were, carried over into “stories,” caged as Cautionary Tales (Moral of the Story) and consuming column after column in newspapers across the United States.

The Russell County Record of Russell, Kansas, ran a lengthy piece like this. Titled “The Happy New Year,” on December 31, 1874, a Mr. Ellis—who could be any one of a million middle-aged husbands and fathers—learns a painful and humiliating lesson. Pay. Your. Debts. Oh, and even more important: Live Within Your Means. This “fictional” fellow is far from content with his income, buys on credit, dreads the “New Year’s Bills,” and even though he’s taken on a wife (and subsequently brought about five cherubic children) can’t find his way out of financial purgatory without his neighbor’s voice of reason:

“Oh, dear, what a miserable life it is! And I must still keep the grocer’s pass-book going, or starve.” (...bemoans Mr. Ellis)

“Cash down! It must be cash down!” exclaimed the neighbor. “There is no other hope for you!”

“But where is the cash to come from?”

“Reserve enough from the payment of bills to keep your table and pay your servants’ wages. Take your wife fully into your confidence. Lay your affairs all open before her. Put the money needed for expenses into her hands, and ask her to make it go as far as possible. Spend nothing yourself. In fact, don’t carry money about you. It is a temptation.”

You Deserve Smooth Sailing

Nineteenth century mores insisted a man couldn't be happy unless in charge of his own finances. Note this effective comparison between "squaring the sails" and freedom from financial bondage:

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American New Year's Resoltuions. "Squre your sails," a comparison of weathering a difficult storm at sea to turning one's course away from debt; smooth sailing! From The Pacific Commercial Advertiser of Honolulu, Hawai'i on December 31, 1863.

Fix Your Marriage

Shudder.

To consider a New Year dawning in debt is nothing, compared to the dread of carrying a dying relationship across the threshold of January 1. Another lengthy moral-filled story graced several columns in The Western Call of Beloit, Kansas on December 30, 1881. (syndicated from Ballou's Magazine)

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American New Year's Resolutions. Moral of the New Year's Cautionary Tale? Save your marital relationship. Syndicated by The Western Call of Beloit, Kansas, December 30, 1881 (original credited to Ballou's Magazine)

Long story made short, a newlywed couple struggles with finances because he insists on economy and she insists he’s selfish. The joy of last New Year’s Eve when they met and began courting rankles this aggravated wife, and before she knows it, she’s pushed her loving (if frustrated) husband away. He informs her he can’t live like this, and he leaves her for two long years. During this time she transforms into an economizing and hardworking farm owner (not just a farm wife), whereupon his return, they reunite and are well-suited (because of New Year’s resolutions?).

Mend Friendships

Tucked within an 1876 article covering etiquette of New Year's Calls (at-home visits), this gem expresses the essence of New Year's-- reconciliation.

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American New Year's Resolutions. From The Rock Island Argus of Rock Island, Illinois on December 30, 1876. Within an article governing etiquette for New Year's Calls, "First calls, especially neglected ones, may be made on New Year's day, and if friendly relations have been disturbed, either party may offer to resume them by making a New Year's call."

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Friday, March 6, 2020

Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parties by Kristin Holt

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parties
by USA Today Bestselling Author Kristin Holt


As readers of sweet romance set in the American Old West, we’re familiar with weddings in this favored setting. We know all about home weddings, preachers or justices of the peace, and recording important dates (like marriages) in the family Bible. Have you noticed that wedding anniversaries are seldom mentioned in historical romance fiction? (Or is this sense of something [accurate] missing bothering only me?)

Wedding anniversary to-do’s were HUGE in the nineteenth century United States. Couples everywhere celebrated their wedding anniversaries in a variety of ways and means, inviting friends and family to celebrate—and in some cases, when a party wasn’t held, the guests held the party for the guests of honor—Surprise! (Can you even imagine?)

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parties: First Wedding Anniversary Surprise Party. Published in The San Francisco Examiner of San Francisco, California on September 2, 1886.
 

Do you recall something about a paper wedding, a tin wedding, and a golden wedding? Victorian-Americans took that stuff seriously. Though vintage sources disagree (and they knew it), they generally held to a generally held “ten years equals tin wedding” and “fifty years equals golden wedding.” To learn much more about these additional weddings, and all the to-do about them, don’t miss out on my post about Victorian-American Wedding Anniversaries in general... it’s also live today!

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversaries

Other than find themselves (un-)pleasantly surprised with a surprise party thrown in their own home, what did folks do to acknowledge the anniversary of their marriage?

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parites: a 25th Silver Wedding Anniversary celebrated at home by Mr. and Mrs. Geo. Anderson. Published in The Topeka Daily Capital of Topeka, Kansas, on November 11, 1888.
The Topeka Daily Capital of Topeka, Kansas on November 11, 1888.


Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parties: Mr. and Mrs. Scott's Topeka, Kansas Tin Wedding Anniversary Party. Published in The Topeka State Journal of Topeka, Kansas on October 20, 1898.

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversaries: Mr. and Mrs. Shaw's Bonne Terre, Missouri Tin Wedding.

The couple often threw their own anniversary party, inviting friends, family, the husband’s business associates, neighbors and the like. Festivities were often held in their home, involving music and food. Newspaper notices about such social gatherings typically listed the number of years celebrated by the couple, the names of guests in attendance, and in many cases, gifts given by various friends enumerated.

Oh boy.


When not enjoying music (such as a musicale), dancing, or supping at the dining room table, wedding anniversary party guests were often treated to other performances (phrenology, for example), or in the case of Mr. and Mrs. C. S. Houghton, were treated to the new game Newcastle, and many winners took home lovely prizes.

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parties: Wedding Anniversary Party plays "the new game Newcastle" for prizes. Announced in The Sacramento Bee of Sacramento, California on March 26, 1887.

The size of a man’s bank account (and perhaps the size of his circle of friends) dictated the extravagance and expense of a wedding anniversary party. New York City newspapers mention parties held at home by couples married from one to sixty years, with the same type of gatherings and celebrations as their western counterparts.

Some celebrations held in ritzy neighborhoods of San Francisco cost far more than a working man could earn in half his lifetime. Descriptions of opulence make me wonder how the happy groom could continue to afford his own party year after year after year. Maybe once one hit the teens (thirteen years of marital bliss, fourteen, fifteen) they needn’t host a get-together until the big numbers, say, like their Silver Wedding.

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parties: Crystal Wedding Party in Lawrence, Kansas--Fifteen Years for Mr. and Mrs. Geo. R. Gould. Annouced in The Spirit of Kansas of Lawrence, Kansas, on November 30, 1881.

This next example of a humble Fiftieth Wedding Anniversary Party speaks of posterity gathering and marking the Golden Wedding of their parents and grandparents.

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parties: Golden Wedding of Saybrook, Illinois-- A Family Celebration. From The Salem Monitor of Salem, Missouri on December 10, 1896.

Sometimes Wedding Anniversary Parties were more commemorative and delightful to the aging bride and groom than anything else. Can’t you see the smiles upon the faces of elderly Mr. and Mrs. Mather? Who said sleigh rides were entertainment for the young?

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parties: A Commemorative Emporia, Pennsylvania Sixtieth Wedding Anniversary. From The Lebanon Argus of Lebanon, Kansas on February 22, 1901.


Golden Wedding Anniversaries were rare in Victorian America, as a normal  and expected lifespan of men and women were strikingly shorter then than now. Considering the Mather’s sleighing on their sixtieth wedding anniversary, in their early 80s, was something remarkable and special... and not only because they were still together. Folks were considered “old” if they reached fifty... and that was a BIG if.

Notice this next couple were doubly-blessed. Not only did they celebrate fifty years of marital bliss, but they outlived virtually all of their contemporaries.

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parites: Golden Wedding Party (Part 1 of 3). From Kansas City Journal of Kansas City, Missouri on March 28, 1897.
Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parites: Golden Wedding Party (Part 2 of 3). From Kansas City Journal of Kansas City, Missouri on March 28, 1897.
Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parites: Golden Wedding Party (Part 3 of 3). From Kansas City Journal of Kansas City, Missouri on March 28, 1897.


This last Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Party notice from an 1896 newspaper reminds us all that food and drink in the late Victorian era, despite Victorian refrigerators and plenty of ice, food poisoning still happened.

Kristin Holt | Victorian-American Wedding Anniversary Parites: Fashionable Wedding Anniversary Guests Poisoned. Reported in Kansas City Journal of Kansas City, Missouri on November 29, 1896.


NOTEWORTHY


Sometimes, people live a shockingly long time. And sometimes, marriage seems to agree with those old codgers. A newspaper syndicate shared the surprising story of Joaquin Marreiro (age 103) and his wife (97) (Cabaceiras City, Brazil), married eighty years. “Of the twenty-three children born to this aged pair fourteen still survive. One hundred and twenty-six grandchildren and ninety-seven great-grandchildren will attend the wedding anniversary.” [Source: The Bloomfield Vindicator of Bloomfield, Missouri on February 26, 1881.]


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You're invited to browse my many blog articles about life and love in the Victorian American West~

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Kristin Holt | Historical Articles by USA Today Bestselling Author Kristin Holt

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Thanks so much for reading!

Warmest Regards,
Kristin Holt
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